THE 10 BASIC NEEDS IN MARRIAGE 

1. THE NEED TO BE MADE TO FEEL SPECIAL 

Marriage is an exclusive union one enters into with the promise of faithfulness. This means there will be an expectation for your spouse to make you feel special and as a priority above every other 

2. THE NEED FOR COMPANIONSHIP

No one leaves singlehood to enter into marriage to feel lonely. In marriage, the longing is to feel you have someone to talk to and spend time with. This is why communication is key in keeping the marriage warm 

3. THE NEED TO BE HEARD

In marriage, you want to do life with someone who listens, who considers your thoughts and views and will not suppress your voice or dominate every conversation

4. THE NEED TO FEEL RECHARGED

Marriage ought to be the place you go to for encouragement and rejuvenation. Your home should not be the place you dread going to, but the place you go after a long day and when life issues way you down to be consoled, cheered up and motivated

5. THE NEED FOR SUPPORT

In marriage, you expect to have a life partner, someone to do things with, solve problems with and who will support your dreams and goals

6. THE NEED TO FEEL SAFE 

Marriage should not be the place where you are intimidated, insulted at, ridiculed or attacked to the point you feel you have to watch your back. Marriage should be the refuge where you find shelter, the place you can rest your head safely, the place where you can relax and be yourself without feeling judged 

7. THE NEED TO FEEL OF VALUE

Marriage should be the place where you are put to good use, where you feel you are contributing something of use. It should be the place with someone who shows you they need you, someone who asks for your help, who notices and appreciates what you do for them 

8. THE NEED TO SEXUALLY PLEASED

Since you are expected to be faithful and no one else should have your body but your spouse, marriage ought to be the place where your sexual longings are met, the place to explore your sexuality and where you can request for sexual pleasure without being denied 

9. THE NEED TO BE TOUCHED

Your skin was meant to be touched. No one should discover the secrets of it but your spouse. Marriage should be the place where you get hugged, cuddled, massaged, caressed and your body played around with 

10. THE NEED TO BE CARED FOR

Marriage should be the place where you feel someone is looking out for you, someone cares about your feelings enough to apologize when they wrong you, someone serves you without asking and shows you compassion, someone wants to know how you truly are 

The more you take care of these 10 needs both of you have in marriage, the more fulfilling marriage will be